Taking control of your life requires you to take radical responsibility for the reality you’re living in whether it’s fair or not.

“Everyone else can eat what they want and not gain weight!”

“Losing weight is so much harder for me than everyone else!”

“It’s so unfair!”

You’re right, it is unfair! Everyone thinks they have it the hardest. We watch other people excel while we struggle and so the only obvious answer is that they have it easier than us. And maybe that’s true! Maybe they have more time than you. Maybe their parents modeled better behavior. Maybe they grew up playing sports. Maybe she does have a faster metabolism.

The point of this blog is not to debate whether or not those things are true. So for argument’s sake let’s just say they are. And in that case, you’re right! It is really fucking unfair. It sucks to feel like you have to work twice as hard as someone else for the same result. Here’s me validating those feelings and giving you permission to be annoyed about that.

Ready for the tough love moment though?

It doesn’t matter if it’s fair or not; it’s still reality. It’s still your responsibility to navigate if you want to make a change. But why is it that we equate hard with being bad? Hard things aren’t always bad! In fact doing hard things is an opportunity.

To prove to yourself that you can do hard things. To build confidence. And self-efficacy. And be really proud of yourself when you see it through.

Taking control of your life requires you to take radical responsibility for the reality you’re living in whether it’s fair or not. So yes, you can focus on the unfairness of it all and white knuckle your way through or just stop trying and decide it’s not worth it. Or you can accept that the game might be rigged and decide to play anyway.

Train With Moxie