The same strength training that helps you look lean and “toned” is the exact same process that builds muscle.

One of the most common concerns I hear—especially from women—is this: “I want to get toned, but I don’t want to get bulky.”

Here’s the truth: the same strength training that helps you look lean and “toned” is the exact same process that builds muscle. And that’s a good thing.

I’ve been lifting consistently for over seven years now. I’ve trained hard, followed structured programs, eaten in a surplus, and done everything I can to build muscle. And guess what? I’m still not what most people would call “bulky.” Building significant muscle takes a lot of time, intention, and effort—it doesn’t happen by accident.

When people say they want to look “toned,” what they usually mean is they want to see muscle definition. That definition doesn’t come from doing endless cardio or lifting 3-pound dumbbells—it comes from building actual muscle and having a body fat percentage low enough for that muscle to be visible. How lean you need to be for that to show varies by person, depending on genetics, body composition, and other factors.

If you’re already on the leaner side but still don’t feel like your physique is where you want it, odds are… you need more muscle.

And if you’re not currently strength training with progressive overload in mind, now is the perfect time to start. Strength training isn’t just for bodybuilders. It’s one of the most effective tools for shaping your body in a way that feels strong, confident, and aligned with your goals—whether that’s looking more athletic, feeling more energized, or just making everyday life feel easier.

So if you’ve been holding back from lifting heavier weights because you’re worried about getting “too big,” let me reassure you there’s absolutely nothing to fear.

Pick up the weights. Build your strength. And remember—muscle is never something to be afraid of. It’s something to be proud of 💪

Train With Moxie